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Survey - AB/DL Practices - 4 - Needing Diapers Essays

42)Is there a comment that you would like to add about wearing diapers 24/7, losing control, or needing diapers? (Optional)

Along with the multiple choice questions, the survey included a few essay questions. Some of the responses are presented below. They are sorted unscientifically. Emphasis was given to answers based on experience or that touched on aspects not covered by the preceeding questions. For example, the multiple choice questions didn't differentiate between lacking daytime and nighttime control (bedwetting). Some have been edited for length. Also, some responses were split and placed in multiple categories if the division didn't substantially affect the response.

In addition to the usual cleanup for readability, responses that mentioned untried methods for causing or simulating incontinence were filtered. Some of the methods mentioned below may be unsafe. Even with the safe and established practices, the usual disclaimer applies: Your mileage may vary.

• Short and Pointed
• Wearing 24/7
• Bedwetting
• Fantasy of Loosing Control
• Untraining
• Wanting Control
• Mixed Feelings
• Realities of Lacking Control
• Conditional Control
• Catheters, Etc.
• Hypnosis
• Transfer of Control
• Bowels

Short and Pointed

• I want to be changed!!!!

Wearing 24/7

• "It just feels natural to me to be diapered around the clock. Being able to pee without worrying you'll wet your pants or doing the potty dance and the ball park or nervously hoping you'll make it to the restroom. Wearing a diaper is a much more sane way of urinating. Much more sanitary, clean, comfortable and secure."
• "24/7 sounds like fun, but after a while it just becomes a little "meh". Saying that I do wear most nights."
• "If you are, like me, equally DL and AB you will find the thrill of diapers will sometimes wear off after continual use. I have used diapers for 2 weeks in a 24/7 period and afterwards the thrill of AB play and being in diapers just felt less of a 'treat' as an activity after work or on weekends and more of a chore to the point of myself saying that this basically 'wasn't fun anymore'. Being kept in diapers in a setting that wasn't tailored for an AB made me feel the diapers just more so as a stressor or added worry in my daily life. This brings me to the ideal that most of my AB fantasies come more from the transfer of control/submissiveness than taking care of even my own needs such as diaper changes."
• "For a non-incon, diapers 24/7, at times, is simply not practical for me. There are times when it is just more comfortable to not be diapered, as I tend to use my diapers when in them."
• "Being a 24/7 seems like fun... until you don't have a choice!! I would wear 24/7 (and have), but would not like to be truly incontinent."
• "I wear diapers all the time because that's what babies do. I am a baby and have to wear diapers."

Bedwetting

• I would most like to be a bedwetter or occasional daytime accident prone. Not so much a full time incontinent.
• "I have recently begun having nighttime accidents, likely partially due to wearing diapers consistently and wetting in various positions. Of course, I'd only stopped recently, around age 12. "
• "I have near-perfect control of my bladder during the day, but I am a nightly bedwetter. That is why I classify myself as [having] a reason to use them."
• "I'm a bedwetter so I've always used diapers for their intended purpose. I wouldn't want to have to wear them 24/7. I like being able to get out of my diapers and into clean dry pants."
• "By wearing diapers to bed so many times over the years, I accidentally trained my body to habitually wet the bed. This is bothersome because I gave up the option of not wearing a diaper to bed."
• "As someone who experienced several years of adult bedwetting, I can attest to the fact that wearing out of need is a far cry from wearing for pleasure. Even the best things in life may become irritating with constant exposure."

Fantasy of Loosing Control

• "I often FANTASIZE about the idea of being totally incontinent, but the reality is that it's a huge hassle, and nowhere near as much fun as one might hope for. So I can't say that I'd WANT to be totally incontinent, but I certainly enjoy PRETENDING to be, and thus being able to keep control when I need to."
• "Losing control is a fantasy, not something I would want in real life."
• "I think it's a great fantasy, but I wouldn't want to need diapers in real life."
• "Be careful what you wish for - fantasies are a whole different ballgame than reality"
• "As a DL, I think and say a lot of things for the sake of foreplay. In actuality, I do not wish to lose control on a permanent basis. When one considers all of the medical issues and social stigmas with wearing diapers, the cons out weigh the pros consistently. "
• "Wanting diapers and needing diapers are two different things."
• "The fantasy of full incontinence is interesting, but not practically doable, therefore it stays a fantasy."
• "A very important part of my fantasy is that in a diaper punishment humiliation scene, it is made clear to me that I'm going to be forced to wear and use diapers just like a baby from then on. On the other hand I have trouble actually sustaining this for more than a day or two at the most, often for even less time."

Untraining

• "After wearing diapers 24/7 I slowly lost control of my bladder."
• "I wear diapers 24/7 and as a result I wet both in the day and at night without thinking whether I need to wet or not. There are times that I fill my diaper when I'm walking or squat down. "
• "I think wearing diapers 24/7 is the only way to truly become dependent on diapers and learn to live with them, even when it's less convenient."
• "Wearing diapers and rubber pants 24/7 for 20 years started out as something to try, but ended up needing them due to involuntary wetting and filling my diapers."
• "Caffeine is an interesting and useful addition to "untraining": I've had a few genuine 'accidents' (while diapered) after drinking a lot of soda."

Wanting Control

• "Having been profoundly urinary incontinent over 25 years, I still do everything possible to regain bladder control. I use AB play as a coping strategy. My loving husband cooperates. I am under the care of a urology team."
• "If I had the option, I wouldn't be incontinent. It's a major hassle and very expensive. On average,I spend over $200 on diapers per month. If I had the option of [not] wearing diapers, I could control the costs more. It's a foolish venture, anyone wanting to lose control of their bladder and/or bowels. Once you lose control,rarely can you turn back. And I consider it insulting whenever anyone purposely tries to render themselves incontinent. My advice is, DON'T!!!"
• "I have worn diapers my entire life at night and 24/7 since Feb 2001. Diapers are a part of my normal life now but there are plenty of situations where I would rather NOT being wearing a diaper but have no choice."
• "Had bowel problems for 5 years, ages 10-15, and wore diapers only in hospital. Was glad to regain control. Never enjoyed laxatives, enemas, etc."
• "I've had issues with urinary incontinence for a large chunk of my life and it was frustrating. I'm at a point where I'm continent, and now that it's by choice, I really enjoy pull-ups sometimes. Nevertheless, when on occasion I lose control, I hate it. I don't want to be forced into wearing protection; I want it to be voluntary if and when I do."

Mixed Feelings

• "I have been an off and on bed wetter and [had] times of complete incontinence all my life, which is sort of how I got into the ABDL scene, but I know I've always liked being babied for as long as I can remember. It's really weird actually having to wear 24/7, it's embarrassing and you wish you weren't in this situation but then when your not you really miss it and want it."
• "I have mixed feelings for diapers. On one hand, they cover up my lack of perfect bladder control. At night, I am paranoid about wetting the bed. During the day, there are times that I am concerned about getting to the restroom before my bladder quits holding. Both of these cause embarrassment. On the other hand, while wearing a diaper, I am comforted by knowing that I do not need perfect bladder control; the diaper will conceal any shortcomings. "
• "I have documented urge incontinence and overactive bladder. I was a daily heavy bedwetter until 16 and had small accidents often but learned to hide them. I enjoy wearing and using diapers as a sexual outlet. I know if I wear more often I will lose control very quickly and then I will not have any choice but full time diapers during the day. I feel this will ruin the sexual feelings since diapers will just be my daily underwear so I am resisting using them."
• "I was an AB for a long time by age 13 when I had a series of back surgeries. A catheter was left in place between surgeries and a nurse tangled up with it one night and yanked it clear out. After 3 urinary tract surgeries ... I deal with mild urge incontinence which create mixed feelings in needing protection, but not a full blown diaper, but I like wearing diapers even with the shame I always feel."

Realities of Lacking Control

• "Be weary of the cost entailed of become incontinent. Be concerned about how it will effect every aspect of your life."
• "It's expensive and I do for medical needs(wetting) so cost should be considered."
• "I am not 2 anymore and [being fully dependent on diapers 24/7] would get in the way of real world things that need to be done."
• "Everybody says that I don't want to really loose control, but I have lived for a few years now wearing only diapers and wetting and wearing. I don't have a lot of control left, but still cannot wet at night...and you know what..I LIKE IT! So all those people who tell me what I want are wrong. OK, sorry, not part of survey, but feels better. :)"
• "I have a few friends that are incontinent and I wouldn't want to put up with the constant problems with carrying diapers around and having no choice but to change in public restrooms. I think I would grow tired of it."
• "Losing control is generally a shortsighted and selfish goal."
• "For many of us, the "long haul" is a great experience, but it takes careful planning. You must have a budget set aside for diapers and other supplies. You must be prepared to change anytime anywhere (leaks can occur and if you're messy, others don't want to smell it.). Keep in mind that after wearing for a while, you'll not be able to hold it very long after you stop wearing diapers."
• "If you want to do this THINK REALLY HARD! It is not always the best thing to do as once you start you have to be committed to it. Just think of all the times you aren't comfortable in a diaper and remember if you do decide to become incontinent you WILL have to."

Conditional Control

• "I guess my ideal "untraining" would be "switched" so that it affects me only when I'm in diapers."
• "I would love to lose control completely (bladder and bowel) for a period of time, but not permanently."
• "Interested in shorter time periods/reversible."
• "I used to wet the bed as a child and in my late teens/early twenties, and diapers are not at all what they seem in fantasies. I enjoy wearing and using them, but I insist on having control over when I lose control, if you get me."

Catheters, Etc.

• "Used catheters a lot until getting a bad UTI and then quit."
• "I have thought about Catheters but am mostly concerned about the safety issues. Infection is very possible even under sterile conditions, and death is a possible consequence. Regardless of method, I wish there was a way to safely have urinary incontinence on a temporary basis, say a week or a month or two."
• "I do have interest in losing urinary control using other methods then a catheter, as I find those dangerous. Such as diuretics to cause wetting accidents, and Cat Nip tea to cause night time bed wetting."

Hypnosis

• "The only real success I have achieved with hypnosis was using a program that allowed me to surrender control only 'when it is proper to do so'. I think other programs have been unsuccessful because I don't truly wish to be 100% incontinent and be restricted to diapers 24/7. I think I would not enjoy them as much if they weren't such a naughty little taboo."
• "I wish I could get hypnosis to work."

Transfer of Control

• "I really like the idea of having control taken away without my knowledge. Either over time losing more and more control, or just waking up one morning to find my girlfriend has done something to remove it overnight."
• "I would only want to be forced in to losing control for a short amount of time, and it would have to be forced."
• "The thing I would actually wish for, if it were a realistic option, would be for my wife to be able to switch my continence on and off at will, with me having no say in the matter."
• "I want to be a full baby and don't want any control over anything. I want someone to be in control of me."
• "I have tried locking plastic pants; because being alone I wanted to try and see what is was like not having a choice to use my diapers. I sent the keys to myself in the mail and was forced to use my diapers for a period of time. I have done this a few times and it was kind of enjoyable while being a rush at the same time."

Bowels

• "I was more continent a few years ago prior to several surgeries. I was actually quite happy when the last surgery left me totally incontinent for wetting. I have bowel accidents due to very bad IBS to the point of never being able to go without a diaper when out of my home, but not full bowel incontinence. I'd like to know what that was like, but am not sure I'd like it if it were irreversible."
• "If you're going to mess regularly, then take something to minimize the smell so not to bother others or cause a stink in the house from soiled diapers (such as Nullo, chlorophyll, or charcoal tablets). And dispose of diapers on a regular basis. Even a few diapers can stink up a room or even the whole house/trailer/apartment/place of reside."
• "If you want to, go for it. Me, I'm happy to have control. One of these days I'll get around to trying laxatives--but even then it's still a kind of control, since I'm choosing a route by which to temporarily lose control."
• I found it was pleasurable to use bananas rectally to simulate a bowel movement in my diapers. Then squishing the bananas in my diaper. I really enjoyed the feel of messing in my diaper and playing baby with out the stinky mess of a real bowel movement in the diaper.

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