An Adult Baby and Diaper Lover 'How To' Table

(Special thanks go to Stormbird, LilJennie, Orca, Ben Dover, Medicaltoys.com, VelvetDragon, Chipper, Pandr Panda, Draco Americanus, Proxima Centauri, Jimmy Lapine, Fox Cub, and many others for their contributions.)

Unlike the first three questions, the fourth concern often varies.   This is because it isn't a single "what", "why", or "if", but many "how"s.  These "how" questions are not difficult to answer individually.  However, because there are so many "how" questions, it may be difficult to find the specific "how-to" that you are looking for.  Fortunately, there are a number of great search engines available, as well as alphabetical and functional indexes that are specific to infantilism.  The functional index below sorts the how-to's by the goal to be achieved.

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Are you a parent?	YES	Strombird offers some good advice for parents of abdl children and for parents who are ABDLs themselves.
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Are you married, engaged, or dating?	YES	Liljennie has a page that shares experiences with infantilism and marriage.
Do you feel anxious or guilty about wearing diapers or related activities?	YES	Have you got rid of your diapers, etc, only to replace them later, over and over again?	YES	This cycle can be damaging and expensive.  There are ways to deal with binge-purge cycles.
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		Are you concerned that someone will find out?	YES	You can practice stealth to prevent people from finding out, or "come out of the closet" to individuals so that you don't need to hide it from them.
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		Are you concerned that wearing diapers might not be ok for you?	YES	Please evaluate the acceptability of infantilism.  This may give you peace from these concerns.
Would you like to reduce the trouble or expense?	YES	Do you wear disposables and wish to spend less?	YES	If you wear diapers more than a once or twice a week, you might save money by switching to cloth.  There are will also a few suggestions for assembling a "shoestring layette."
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		Do you enjoy diapers but wish that they took up less of your time?	YES	It isn't unusual to start off spending a lot of your spare time in diapers, and to stay in your room during that time.  However, this leaves little time for the rest of life.  Please consider wearing diapers less or incorporating diapers into other activities.
		NO
		Do you wish diapers were less troublesome, more convenient, or less awkward?	YES	Please go to Table #2: Reducing Problems
Would you like to enjoy infantilism more?	YES	Caution: The newness of most things wears off.  This is called desensitization.   As a result, infantilists may tend towards more and more extreme practices, just to maintain the newness.  Tommy of DPF has named this the "black hole effect."		Please go to Table #3: Increasing Enjoyment
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Would you like to be part of the infantilist community?	YES	Are you in a large city?	YES	There may be a regional club of infantilists in you area.  If not, there may be a BDSM or fetish club that is infantilist -aware and accepting.   There also may be get-togethers for luch or dinner, called "munches" in you area. If not, BabyMichael has written a guide on Starting Your Own Munch.
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If you didn't find an answer, please try the alphabetical index, or Email BitterGrey with your question.		Are you also "furry," associating with a particular animal?	YES	You may enjoy visiting the nurseries on FurryMUCK
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		Would you like to connect with others over irc, usenet, or other places on the internet?	YES	A good list of these places is included in meeting others by LilJennie,
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		Are looking for a way that you can make a contribution to the community?	YES	There are many ways that you can help out the infantilism community.

Email BitterGrey Last Update: 2 July 2005

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