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AB/DL Survey #1 - Joys

Edit 5 December 2016: These results have been updated per the tenth year standards update.

Survey #1: ABs, DLs, Etc., Question #13

The phrase 'diapers and/or babyhood' was used as a preliminary summary of ABDL interests in the surveys. However, this is far from an exhaustive description. To check the scope of the multiple-choice questions, the survey also included a few optional, fill-in-the-blanks questions. As might be expected when intelligence, creativity, and basic urges are involved, the joys reported were widely diverse. While ABDL interests might sprout from a limited set of sources, they flower in many directions.

It is said that there is no accounting for taste. This is doubly true for this question, which can't be statistically analyzed. Since the fill-in-the-blank questions were optional, those who thought their tastes were ordinary or unremarkable might have been less likely to describe them. In contrast, participants that thought their answers were too personal would not want their answers posted. (There was a checkbox at the end of the survey offering this option.) Even among those who filled in the blank and were willing to have their answers posted, only a non-random sampling is included below. For example, repetitive responces were filtered, and clear responses were included in favor of similar but ambiguous ones. The sampling below gives a broader picture of the scope of participants' interests, but it can't be analyzed statistically. No conclusions should be based on the number or frequency of answers.

For readability, the answers below have been artificially grouped into categories. Often, answers would fit into more than one category. Care was taken to preserve the diversity of the original responces. Collectively, the participants put considerable time and care into their answers. The level of success that the first survey enjoyed wouldn't have been possible without their efforts.

• Accidents
• Contact
• Daddies
• Diapers
• Force
• Misc
• Mommies, Etc.
• Regression
• Sissies
• Wetting and Messing

Accidents

• Having someone (female) make me lose control. Have tried dozens of ways to make myself temporarily bedwet or incontinent. The fantasy would be to have someone dominate me and retrain or force me to loose control, so I have to wear diapers (and hence be perpetually submissive to her)... In reality I have no desire for permanent incontinence or bedwetting, just to truly have that condition for hours or days straight. The desires for this fantasy all but cease after climax.
• Peeing and pooping in them uncontrollably like a baby

Contact

• The snuggling and attention.
• Having someone hug and snuggle and cuddle with me, and let it escalate to something more. Either myself, my partner, or both can wear diapers, but they need to be clean.
• Being in close contact with the babysitter, and getting a lot of attention.

Daddies, Etc.

• Having an older man punish me for bedwetting by forcing me into cloth diapers and plastic pants, and having to use them.
• I love crinkly, plastic-covered, thick disposable diapers. I like wetting and messing in them. They make me horny but also they make me feel like a two-year old toddler, which is extremely gratifying for me, even if it doesn't include orgasm. I also love any other thing a toddler might like pacifiers, clothes, etc., but not baby talk. These things have the same effect on me of providing a deep sort of psychosexual gratification. I say "psychosexual" instead of "sexual" because it need not involve orgasm, though when i get very hard I just masturbate in the diaper and I love that too. I respond sexually to women and always have, but never share baby stuff with them. I can't really fall in love with a woman, even if I like the sex with her. Also, the idea of a woman in a diaper is a turn off. Even cute guys who are "sissies" or have a "gay" voices or mannerisms are turnoffs. I fall in love with boyish guys who are masculine in a boyish natural way (like I am). I want to treat them like toddlers and also be a "co-toddler" with them. That is my deep desire: to find a partner like me in this way and maybe even go up to Canada to marry him. Guys who want to be babies all the time and have not grownup life freak me out. It is the blend of self-sufficient adult who needs to be loved or treated as a baby boy despite maybe his own pride in being a successful adult that really captures me.

Diapers

• Diapers!
• ...I'm a DL only. I do not have any AB tendencies. Actually it would kind of freak me out if someone wanted to baby me. I love the feeling of wearing a diaper - and that is the most important part of it: I simply enjoy wearing ;)
• The great feeling they give as they hug the body...
• I enjoy wearing a cloth diaper and plastic pants. I'm not into the masturbating (I have on occasion) or wetting (I have on occasion).
• Wearing diapers under my clothes in public.
• I love the feeling my thick cloth diapers give me. I sometimes run my hand over the smooth plastic pants and feel confident, knowing I can "go" whenever and wherever. When wetting I love the feel of the warm glow spreading slowly over my diapered area as well.
• I love to wear a thick terry nappy. Thickness is important so that you are always aware that you have a nappy on and waddle like a real baby.
• The incredible tactile feel, and the immaturity and embarrassment of the diaper, along with the convenience and the return to a younger, easier time.

Force

• Being forced into diapers and transvestism.
• I often fantasize about being forced to wear and use diapers 24/7 and about being trained to become a bedwetter and/or a daytime wetter. In real life, I wouldn't want to be in diapers 24/7, but I enjoy scenes in which I'm "made" to wear and wet diapers--either by being restrained, or by having diapers locked on, or by being threatened with a spanking if I don't wear & wet diapers as I'm supposed to.
• The range is huge, but fantasy I most enjoy is a "forced" babyhood scene. In such I am not only put into diapers, but also into locking clothing such as locking plastic panties, locking mitts, and a hobbling device that makes me have to crawl.
• Frequently diapers are a permanent fixture in my fantasies, also sex of some kind. Occasionally mind control and/or other types of control like spankings, humiliation. Baby type stuff typically doesn't feature unless it's part of a humiliation scene. Also occasionally the "convenience" of diapers, but usually as part of a "control" mechanism.
• Being forced to wear baby girl or teen aged girl cloths and diaper changed in public. being dressed so that at no time will my diaper be hidden from view. All the baby things and treatments are not so important. I must never be allowed to use the toilet or out of diapers. I like to be put in disposable diapers but cloth may be used from time to time. I also need to be changed by more than one care giver, ie. baby sitter, nurse, family member.
• The thought of being forced back into diapers... of somebody rationalizing it to me and "forcing" me to accept diapers 24/7.
• The overall feeling of being treated like a toddler by someone (a non-diaper wearer) superior to myself. The humiliation aspect is important, but the placement aspect is too. I'm a baby and my daddy/big bro/ sitter is there to take care of me, because i can't take care of myself.
• I do not like humiliation or pain but I like being under someone's control, such as forced enemas, being in a collar, being strongly encouraged to wet the diaper completely.
• Being controlled/dominated, but in a loving sort of way.

Misc

• The feel and smell of baby powder, softness of a plushie I'm cuddling, and a warm bottle. DIAPERS THAT I CAN COUNT ON ARE A MUST!
• Pacifiers. Actually, I never really kicked the infantile urge to want one, since that babyish urge to have one was with me all through my childhood for as long as I can remember.
• Cuddling up to my teddy as I fall asleep, I can go with out diapers but never my teddy :)
• I like being dressed as a toddler - snap-crotch short-alls when possible - if not regular short-alls. Diapered as much as possible. Cloth rules..
• Wearing diapers to bed, wetting them at night being able to age play 9 years old. Before junior high, before everything you said could, might have that "hidden" double meaning of sex. Where still cute and huggable where the innocence of not knowing about sex. When you could hug a girl and it would not be sexual, where you could say someone was beautiful and pretty and not have that person think that they were being "hit" on. But, being old enough to do things on my own, but young enough where its OK to ask for help in some areas, like having someone else pick out clothes to wear, or being tucked in bed, the things that are kind of looked down upon in society, the becoming an adult, becoming "independent".
• I really enjoy cuddling and playing with Legos, and doing things that are mentally stimulating yet child-like, such as imagination-based games.
• Wow, um, I don't think this box would be big enough even were it infinitely huge...So I'll keep this as short as I can. Reducing everything down to its basest components, I simply enjoy three things when it comes to the scene. The first of these is removal/lack of control involved. When one is in the position of baby, or being punished in a babyish manner, almost all control has been removed. I suppose the thought of not even being able to debate the actions of my caretaker, the thought of literally being as helpless as a baby, turns me on. Essentially, submission. On to the second: security, safety, and comfort. Everything that your lifestyle AB would purport to practice for. Everything's easy and simple as a baby. There are no reasons to be angry, insecure, or worried about anything when everything you need is provided for you. When somebody who truly cares for you (and you reciprocate the feeling) feeds you, or tucks you into bed, or indulges in your need to play with legos for hours. There's a mutual feeling of closeness and sanctity that very few other couples will -ever- experience. ... Thirdly comes the most embarrassing thing that I enjoy about this particular fetish, the humiliation. As much as it makes me blush to say it, I love being purposefully embarrassed in whatever way that can be related to the fetish. Examples being stuff like ... wearing a pacifier on a clip in public, or being made to wear tight pants over thick diapers, etc. I can't explain it, but the thought of being made to turn beet red is a turn-on. Most importantly though, are horsey rides. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about. Where someone gets on their hands and knees, and someone else(typically the child =p) gets on the 'horsey's' back. Said horsey then crawls around, playfully trying to dislodge the rider, rearing up, and in general just having fun. Speaking from the experience of one of these, wearing nothing more than a wet diaper I might add, horsey rides are the perfect combination of the above three concepts. Try it some time. I promise you'll love it, as long as you deal with the teasing of a caretaker =p

Mommies, Etc.

• To sit in mummies lap and suck on her breasts while milk flows into my mouth. Mummy gently talks to me and feels inside my nappy. She sees that I am wet and takes me to the changing table. She changes me with total love that only a mother can have for her baby. She picks out the cutest dress or romper suit and dresses me with love. She smiles and puts me in the highchair and feeds me baby food. Placing a bib around my neck. My mummy loves me totally like no other person can. She reads me little stories and plays finger games with me. She takes me out shopping in my baby overalls. She is my only one.
• Giving up thinking, and being mommy's safe, pretty boy.
• The idea of being a small child receiving care from a mother figure. I.E. Playing out in the yard, and being called in to be bathed, put in fresh cloth diapers, dressed in P.J.s and read a story to be put to sleep.
• Being treated like a little toddler by a warm, gentle and loving mommy figure... Being able to play with stuffies and toys. Having my diapers changed. Cuddling, having my hair stroked, having bathtimes and naptimes in a crib with stuffies and a dummy for confort.
• What I really enjoy is wearing a diaper and embracing the feeling of helpless it brings, while sucking on a bottle in mommy's arms...
• Mummys gentle touch applying baby lotion to my bottom at nappy changing time

Regression

• It's a release from being expected to be at the head of everything, from having to be responsible for everything even outside of my own life.
• Playing kid's games on a old computer. Watching cartoons. The smell of new plastic and plastic stuff. I hate glass.
• Being regressed from being a women back into a little baby girl.
• I love being treated like a 2 year old wolf puppy princess.
• The idea of not having to be responsible, and having my life completely controlled.
• Escapism, and the illusion of being safe forever. Knowing that someone is looking after me, and keeping me safe. Imagining being little again and not even thinking about growing up or adult responsibilities: the freedom to be myself.
• I enjoy the emotional impact the most. While the natural attraction to diapers for my inner age group is very strong, I also enjoy roleplay without including diapers at all. This roleplay may still include feeding, bathing, clothing and cuddling.

Sissies

• I'm just a sissy who dresses in pretty pink dresses with bows and ruffles, and sometimes with a diaper. I love playing with my barbies and do it for hours.
• Being stripped and made to dress as a girl with full tarty make-up, bra, stockings, suspenders, knickers, strap on heels, wig, and jewelry. Having my hands locked behind back and taken to another room, outside a shed or by car to another building. There the dress and knickers are removed and I am put in a baby dress or tight halter top and very short skirt. My groin is shaved and a nappy put on me, with or without frilly pants. My nappy shows under my skirt. Then I'm bottle or breast fed and treated like a baby in bondage.

Wetting and Messing

• The feeling [of] a wet and sometimes a dirty diaper.
• Someone else peeing in my diaper while i'm still wearing it.
• Peeing in my diaper before going to bed to wake up wet the next morning.
• Pooping in my diaper and not changing it for a while.
• The detachment which occurs while voiding during normal daily activity. So often as we walk, drive, talk, and move about the urge to void comes upon us. It is a conditioned response to "pinch" things off. Working to let the body relax and not void so that the bladder is working on its normal release cycle and the warm, wet feelings that ensue immediately after are what I enjoy the most. Having the reminder present in the form of a heavy wet diaper helps to extend the pleasant sensations.
• Wetting my diaper, and feeling the wet diaper against my body.
• I like getting up in the morning and just wandering around in a wet diaper. I sometimes will start working around the house or go online to look at photos of adults wearing diapers. I also like plastic pants. I wish my wife would do the same. I like the aroma of a wet diaper as long as it is fresh and not smelling like ammonia. I like sex wet and the feeling a diaper brings is close as I get to that. A man's best friend. Always close to you, never complains, always wet when you want it, can last for hours, always ready and willing, never says no, is very DEPENDable, Always ATTENDS to my bedwetting, saves on laundry, easy clean up. I could just keep going. No pun intended.
• The heavy, thick padding around my diaper area after a day's worth of wetting. the freedom of not having to plan and/or alter my activities around bathroom breaks.

Survey #1 part 1 - 2 - joys - 3 - events - 4 - messages - 5 - 6 & 7

Email BitterGrey Last Update: 4 Dec 2016| First Posted 15 May 2008

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