Survey on AB/DL Practices, Part 1

This survey will focus on a few common AB/DL practices. These practices are clustered into groups, with each section focusing on one group. Of course, not all AB/DLs engage in all AB/DL practices. Some groups might not be relevant to you. Please answer at least the first few questions in each group of this survey, and all the questions in groups that are relevant to you. If a section isn't relevant to you, this will be recorded in the first few questions in that section.

All fill-in-the-blank questions are optional.

Answers to this survey are confidential, although answers to the fill-in-the-blank questions may be quoted anonymously. If you do not wish to be quoted, simply uncheck the 'it is OK to quote from my essay answers anonymously' box at the end of the survey. Names, email addresses, and other identifying information will not be distributed.

For the the purposes of this survey, 'AB/DL' will be used to loosely refer to those with an interest in diapers and/or babyhood. It will also be used to as an adjective to avoid repeating 'paraphilic infantilism, diaper fetishism, and related interests' often. If you selected one of the non-AB/DL options above, please substitute ageplay, BDSM, etc. Additionally, 'babyhood' will be used generally to refer to infancy, toddlerhood, etc. Finally, 'partner' will be used to refer to one's girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, life partner, mistress, master, 'mommy,' 'daddy,' etc.

The Basics

1)Nickname(optional):

2)Email Address(optional):

3) Based on your interests, do you consider yourself a: (Please select the best fit.)
Diaper Lover (DL) only (loves diapers, but not roleplay)
mostly DL but sometimes AB
equally AB and DL
mostly AB but sometimes DL
Adult Baby (AB) only (loves roleplay, generally including diapers)
mommy/daddy/caregiver
the partner of an AB/DL
non-AB/DL ageplayer
non-AB/DL BDSM enthusiast
the partner of a non-AB/DL ageplay or BDSM enthusiast
Other:

For those who are both AB/DLs and caregivers: Please answer question #3 based which you have had the most interest in, which you have had the strongest desire to be. If you have been equally interested in caregiving and being an AB/DL, please select 'other' above. This question will be expanded upon by two other questions, later in this survey. One will explore your willingness to serve in a role that isn't the one that you are most interested in. The other will explore what role you generally end up in. For example, these three questions will record how many want to be caregivers, how many are willing to be caregivers, and how many usually are caregivers. (Clarification added 7/15/09)

4)Are you...
(Please only include gender preference as an adult, as opposed to when playing a baby, etc.)
Male
Female
Male Transvestite (dresses as an adult woman)
Male to Female Transsexual
Female Transvestite (dresses as an adult man)
Female to Male Transsexual
Biologically intersexed
Other:

5)What is your sexual orientation? (Please answer based on your sexual preferences.)
Heterosexual
Between Heterosexual and Bisexual, or Bi leaning toward heterosexual
Bisexual
Between Homosexual and Bisexual, or Bi learning toward homosexual
Homosexual
Solo (sexual): Even if I could have my choice of partners, I'd masturbate, etc., alone.
Asexual: I don't desire any form of sexual expression at any time.

6)In what year were you born? (YYYY)

Section One - AB/DL-Related Pictures, Stories, Etc.

When asked about your favorite AB/DL-related picture, story, or video, which one comes to mind first? Please keep that one item in mind when answering the following questions. It is OK if this item wasn't created by or for AB/DLs. There isn't a right or wrong choice. Please answer at least the first question.

7)Is your favorite item of AB/DL-related media a:
Photograph
Drawing
Short Story
Book
Short video
Movie
TV show
Song
Advertisement
Other
I don't have a favorite item of AB/DL-related media

If you selected 'I don't have a favorite' please skip to Section Two , starting with question number 14.

8)What aspects are important to your enjoyment of that media item?Pick any that are important.
age regression
babyhood
bondage or transfer of control
clothing, other than diapers
diapers
femininity or womanhood
furriness or animalhood
growing up/coming of age
humiliation or loss of status
innocence
masculinity or manhood
objects other than diapers and clothing
partial exposure/partially covered
sense of wonder, hope, or optimism
simplicity, the lack of competing aspects
sissyhood
sexual arousal, readiness, or invitation
wetting or messing, being wet or messy
a dom-sub relationship
a parent-child relationship
a relationship between lovers
Other:
Not Applicable: I don't have a favorite item of AB/DL-related media

The next four questions relate to a character in that picture, story, etc. Consider the character who is most important to your enjoyment of it. This character might not be the most important to the picture or story itself. If different answers apply at different times in a story, answer based on the part of the story that you enjoy most.

9)What is that character's sex and gender?
male
male but crossdressed or changed into a female
female
female but crossdressed or changed into a male
intersexed, with both male and female features
his or her gender is unclear
it doesn't have a gender
Not Applicable: No favorite item of AB/DL-related media or no characters in it.

10)Is the age of the character's role similar to the character's (or model's) age?
Yes
No, the character is older (for example, a grown man acting as a toddler)
No, the character is younger (for example, a baby acting as an adult)
Not enough information to decide
Not Applicable: No favorite item of AB/DL-related media or no characters in it.

11)What is the apparent role of the character? Please choose the closest match
No clear role
Newborn/young baby
Toddler
Small child, before puberty
Teen or older child (but not a caregiver)
Adult (but not a caregiver)
Sitter, nurse, teacher, or other unrelated caregiver
Mommy, daddy, big brother, or other related caregiver
Not Applicable: No favorite item of AB/DL-related media or no characters in it.

12)Given your choice, you would..
Be with the character (be together with him or her, giving care to or receiving care from him or her, etc.)
Be the character (replace him or her in that situation, costume, body, etc.)
Sometimes "be with," sometimes "be"...
Not Applicable: No favorite item of AB/DL-related media or no characters in it.

The following questions will explore what properties you want in a partner (girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, lover, etc.). The desired partner you'd want, if you could have any partner, might be different than your actual partner.

14)Most of the time, would you rather be...
head of the relationship or the dominant partner
a peer in the relationship.
submissive or the lesser partner in the relationship.
Alone. I don't want a partner.

If you answered 'alone,' please skip to Section Three, starting with question number 24.

15)During AB/DL scenes and games, would you wish to be more dominant than you are most of the time in the relationship, or more submissive? (This could also be worded more controlling or less controlling.)
More dominant - The same - More submissive
Not Applicable: No desired partner.

16)Would you be willing to accept a partner that wasn't of your preferred gender if one was available and willing to participate in AB/DL activities? (Or if you aren't an AB/DL, your interest in ageplay, BDSM, etc.)
Yes
Maybe
Maybe not
No
I'm not an AB/DL, ageplayer, BDSM-enthusiast, etc.
I'm bisexual, leaning neither toward heterosexuality nor homosexuality, so I don't have a preferred partner's gender.
Not Applicable: No desired partner.

17)Would you be open to serving in a role that isn't your preferred role? For example, you'd prefer to be the baby, but were willing to be a caregiver or a non-caregiver adult.
Yes
Maybe
Maybe not
No (or not willing to roleplay)
Not Applicable: No desired partner.

18)In an AB/DL game or scene, how much direction should the dominant or leading partner accept from the other partner? In addition to safewords, you would want the dominant partner to...
...always respond to requests/orders
...respond to requests sometimes, or to a limited set of orders or requests
...respond to feelings but not to requests
...not respond to your feelings or requests
I'd want us to be peers, equally leading and following.
Not Applicable: No desired partner.

19)Do you enjoy visiting professional mommies, sitters, daddies, doms, or prostitutes willing to involve diapers?
I've tried it and ......enjoyed it ...it was OK ...didn't enjoy it
I haven't tried it and... ...want to ...would try it ...don't want to

20)If there were a way to live out the rest of your years at a specific age, what age would that be? Caregiving and finances would not be a concern. Both mental and physical age would be changed. This alteration would not affect your total lifespan.
Newborn/young baby
Toddler
Small child, before puberty
Teen or older child
Adult, 20s to 30s
Adult, over 30.
I would pass, choosing to grow older as usual.

21)In a private AB/DL scene or activity between you and your ideal partner, who would usually wear the diaper and/or be dressed as a baby?
Just me
Both of us
Just my partner
No preference
Neither of us
Not Applicable: No desired partner.

22)Do you enjoy being changed by someone else? Alternatively, if just your partner would be the one usually wearing the diaper, do you enjoy changing him or her?
I've tried it and ......enjoyed it ...it was OK ...didn't enjoy it
I haven't tried it and... ...want to ...would try it ...don't want to

23)Do you enjoy having someone else decide when you get changed?Alternatively, if just your partner would be the one usually wearing the diaper, do you enjoy deciding when he or she gets changed?
I've tried it and ......enjoyed it ...it was OK ...didn't enjoy it
I haven't tried it and... ...want to ...would try it ...don't want to

One burden that AB/DLs bear is the need to choose whom they should tell about their interests. The following questions will touch on whom, how, and how it turned out. Please answer at least the first question.

24)Do you think that anyone else knows that you are an AB/DL or are involved with one?
Yes- No

If you answered 'no,' please skip to Section Four, starting with question number 33.

25)Do your parents know about your being an AB/DL or being involved with one? Please answer for the parent that you have the closest relationship with if the answers are not the same.
Probably not. I've decide not to tell them.
Probably not. I've decided to tell them, but haven't yet.
Probably not, and I'm not sure what to do about it.
Yes. We were open about it from early on.
Yes. I took initiative and discussed it with them.
Yes. A related topic came up, and I took the opportunity.
Yes. I got caught, they found my diapers, saw files on my computer, etc.
Yes. They were told by someone else.

26)If your parents know, would you want them to forget?
No. I'm happy with how things turned out.
No. I wish I'd come out sooner and wouldn't undo it.
Yes. I want a 'do-over' so I could prepare better, time it better, etc.
Yes. I wish they never knew.
They probably don't know.

27)How many of your non-AB/DL friends know that you are an AB/DL or are involved with one?
All of them
Many of them
Few of them
None of them
All my friends are AB/DLs
I don't have any friends

28)In hindsight, how many of those non-AB/DL friends who know would you want to know?
None. I wish I hadn't told any of them.
Only a few
Most of them
I'd tell all of them again.
I don't have any non-AB/DL friends that know.

29)How many of your coworkers know that you are an AB/DL or are involved with one? If you are a student, please include classmates, excluding friends.
All of them
Many of them
Few of them
None of them
I don't have coworkers or classmates

30)In hindsight, how many of those coworkers who know would you want to know?
None. I wish they didn't know.
Only a few
Most of them
All.
I don't have any coworkers that know.

31)Which method (or methods) would you recommend others use when coming out? Please one, two, or a few.
Get 'caught'
Talk about it after drinking/getting drunk
Wait for a related topic to come up, such as in a TV show
Ask about secret fantasies or another related topic, and then share your own as part of the conversation
Leave a printout of a website or an article out to be found.
Initiate a discussion with a simple, prepared statement
Initiate a discussion with a structured presentation; including lead-in, definitions, and expected questions
Don't come out. Keep it a secret.
Other: please explain in question #32.
I haven't come out to either friends or coworkers.

32)What suggestions would you give to others who were thinking of coming out? For example, do you have tips about how or when to come out, or suggestions about determining whether or not someone would want to know? (Optional)

This section will explore the interests and experiences of needing diapers, due to incontinence or some other reason, as opposed to just wearing or using them.

Note: There are AB/DLs who don't want to use diapers and don't have any reason to use them. The following question is intended to let them be counted without having to detail their lack of interest and need. (Clarification added 7/15/09)

33)Do you have either an interest in using diapers or a reason to use them, such as incontinence, an irritable bowel, diarrhea, etc.?
No- Yes

If you answered 'no,' please skip to Section Five, starting with question number 43.

34)Have you worn and used diapers continuously for a period of months or more?
I've tried it and ......enjoyed it ...it was OK ...didn't enjoy it
I haven't tried it and... ...want to ...would try it ...don't want to

35)Are you incontinent?
No
Urinary incontinence (wetting) only
Bowel incontinence (messing) only
Both bladder and bowel incontinence

36)Do you have an irritable bowel or problems with diarrhea more often than your friends?
Yes - No

37)Would you choose to become permanently incontinent? If you are incontinent, would you want control permanently restored?
I don't want to be incontinent
Wetting accidents/urinary incontinence only
Messing accidents/bowel incontinence only
Both bladder and bowel incontinence

38)Have you tried hypnosis to cause a lack of control?
No
Yes, but it didn't work
Yes, and it may have caused a few accidents
Yes, and it worked satisfactorily

39)Have you tried 'untraining' your bladder, either to become habitually incontinent or to wet the bed?
No
Yes, but it didn't work
Yes, and it may have caused a few accidents
Yes, and it worked satisfactorily

40)Have you used laxatives, suppositories, or other substances to cause messing 'accidents'?
I've tried it and ......enjoyed it ...it was OK ...didn't enjoy it
I haven't tried it and... ...want to ...would try it ...don't want to

41)Have you used a catheter to remove urinary control?
I've tried it and ......enjoyed it ...it was OK ...didn't enjoy it
I haven't tried it and... ...want to ...would try it ...don't want to

42)Is there a comment that you would like to add about wearing diapers 24/7, losing control, or needing diapers? (Optional)

The following questions will explore some aspects of actually being in a relationship as or with an AB/DL. Please answer at least the first two.

43)Are you currently:
married or in a domestic partnership
engaged to become married or enter into a domestic partnership
in a long-term relationship other than marriage or domestic partnership
dating someone/"going steady"
actively dating in general, but not dating someone in particular
interested in a relationship, but not actively dating
not currently interested in a relationship

44)How long have you and your current or most recent previous partner been close?
under a year
1 or 2 years
3 or 4 years
5 to 10 years
11 to 20 years
over 20 years
no close partnerships yet

If you selected 'no close partnerships yet' please skip to the end .

45)Does your partner know that you are an AB/DL?
Probably not. I've decide not to tell her or him.
Probably not. I've decided to tell her or him, but haven't yet.
Probably not, and I'm not sure what to do about it.
Yes. It was clear from the start, due to how we met, etc..
Yes. I took initiative and discussed it with her or him.
Yes. A related topic came up, and I took the opportunity.
Yes, she or he found my diapers, saw files on my computer, etc.
Yes. She or he was told by someone else.
I'm not an AB/DL.
Not Applicable: No close partnerships yet.

46)Your partner:
was already an AB/DL
enjoys AB/DL activities after you introduced them to him or her
participates in AB/DL activities but doesn't enjoy them
is OK with AB/DL practices, but doesn't participate.
is aware but isn't accepting
probably isn't aware that you are an AB/DL.

47)in AB/DL games, scenes, and activities with him or her, which role do you most often play?
Newborn/young baby
Toddler
Small child, before puberty
Teen or older child (but not a caregiver)
Adult (but not a caregiver)
Sitter, nurse, teacher, or other unrelated caregiver
Mommy, daddy, big brother, or other related caregiver
We don't engage in AB/DL games,scenes, or activities
Not Applicable: No close partnerships yet.

48)Do you do what you want in terms of AB/DL practices, or do you moderate them based on the wants of others?
Moderate - Moderate sometimes - Don't Moderate

49)Have you been divorced?
No - once - twice - three or more times

End of the Survey

51)Is there anything that was left out of this survey, or anything that needs to be corrected in it? (Optional)

- It is OK to quote from my essay answers anonymously. (Names, email address, and clearly identifying information will not be made public either way.)

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