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This survey will focus on a few common AB/DL practices. These practices are clustered into groups, with each section focusing on one group. Of course, not all AB/DLs engage in all AB/DL practices. Some groups might not be relevant to you. Please answer at least the first few questions in each group of this survey, and all the questions in groups that are relevant to you. If a section isn't relevant to you, this will be recorded in the first few questions in that section.
All fill-in-the-blank questions are optional.
Answers to this survey are confidential, although answers to the fill-in-the-blank questions may be quoted anonymously. If you do not wish to be quoted, simply uncheck the 'it is OK to quote from my essay answers anonymously' box at the end of the survey. Names, email addresses, and other identifying information will not be distributed.
For the the purposes of this survey, 'AB/DL' will be used to loosely refer to those with an interest in diapers and/or babyhood. It will also be used to as an adjective to avoid repeating 'paraphilic infantilism, diaper fetishism, and related interests' often. If you selected one of the non-AB/DL options above, please substitute ageplay, BDSM, etc. Additionally, 'babyhood' will be used generally to refer to infancy, toddlerhood, etc. Finally, 'partner' will be used to refer to one's girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, life partner, mistress, master, 'mommy,' 'daddy,' etc.
1)Nickname(optional):
(40-character fill-in-the-blank space provided)
2)Email Address(optional):
(80-character fill-in-the-blank space provided)
3) Based on your interests, do you consider yourself a: (Please select the best fit.)
For those who are both AB/DLs and caregivers: Please answer question #3 based which you have had the most interest in, which you have had the strongest desire to be. If you have been equally interested in caregiving and being an AB/DL, please select 'other' above. This question will be expanded upon by two other questions, later in this survey. One will explore your willingness to serve in a role that isn't the one that you are most interested in. The other will explore what role you generally end up in. For example, these three questions will record how many want to be caregivers, how many are willing to be caregivers, and how many usually are caregivers. (Clarification added 7/15/09)
4)Are you... (Please only include gender preference as an adult, as opposed to when playing a baby, etc.)
5)What is your sexual orientation? (Please answer based on your sexual preferences.)
6)In what year were you born? (YYYY) (4-character fill-in-the-blank space provided)
Calvin: "Hey Susie, what's the answer to Question 5?"
Susie: "Imadoofus."
Calvin: "Thanks."
-Bill Waterson, Calvin and Hobbes
When asked about your favorite AB/DL-related picture, story, or video, which one comes to mind first? Please keep that one item in mind when answering the following questions. It is OK if this item wasn't created by or for AB/DLs. There isn't a right or wrong choice. Please answer at least the first question.
7)Is your favorite item of AB/DL-related media a:
If you selected 'I don't have a favorite' please skip to Section Two , starting with question number 14.
8)What aspects are important to your enjoyment of that media item?Pick any that are important.
The next four questions relate to a character in that picture, story, etc. Consider the character who is most important to your enjoyment of it. This character might not be the most important to the picture or story itself. If different answers apply at different times in a story, answer based on the part of the story that you enjoy most.
9)What is that character's sex and gender?
10)Is the age of the character's role similar to the character's (or model's) age?
11)What is the apparent role of the character? Please choose the closest match
12)Given your choice, you would..
13)Is there something that you would like to add about your favorite AB/DL-related picture, story, video, etc.? (optional)
(6x65 character fill-in-the-blank area provided)
"All the time a person is a child he is both a child and learning to be a parent. After he becomes a parent he becomes predominantly a parent reliving childhood." -Dr. Spock
The following questions will explore what properties you want in a partner (girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, lover, etc.). The desired partner you'd want, if you could have any partner, might be different than your actual partner.
14)Most of the time, would you rather be...
If you answered 'alone,' please skip to Section Three, starting with question number 24.
15)During AB/DL scenes and games, would you wish to be more dominant than you are most of the time in the relationship, or more submissive? (This could also be worded more controlling or less controlling.)
16)Would you be willing to accept a partner that wasn't of your preferred gender if one was available and willing to participate in AB/DL activities? (Or if you aren't an AB/DL, your interest in ageplay, BDSM, etc.)
17)Would you be open to serving in a role that isn't your preferred role? For example, you'd prefer to be the baby, but were willing to be a caregiver or a non-caregiver adult.
18)In an AB/DL game or scene, how much direction should the dominant or leading partner accept from the other partner? In addition to safewords, you would want the dominant partner to...
19)Do you enjoy visiting professional mommies, sitters, daddies, doms, or prostitutes willing to involve diapers?
20)If there were a way to live out the rest of your years at a specific age, what age would that be? Caregiving and finances would not be a concern. Both mental and physical age would be changed. This alteration would not affect your total lifespan.
21)In a private AB/DL scene or activity between you and your ideal partner, who would usually wear the diaper and/or be dressed as a baby?
22)Do you enjoy being changed by someone else? Alternatively, if just your partner would be the one usually wearing the diaper, do you enjoy changing him or her?
23)Do you enjoy having someone else decide when you get changed?Alternatively, if just your partner would be the one usually wearing the diaper, do you enjoy deciding when he or she gets changed?
"Nothing weighs on us so heavily as a secret." -Jean de La Fontaine
One burden that AB/DLs bear is the need to choose whom they should tell about their interests. The following questions will touch on whom, how, and how it turned out. Please answer at least the first question.
24)Do you think that anyone else knows that you are an AB/DL or are involved with one?
If you answered 'no,' please skip to Section Four, starting with question number 33.
25)Do your parents know about your being an AB/DL or being involved with one? Please answer for the parent that you have the closest relationship with if the answers are not the same.
26)If your parents know, would you want them to forget?
27)How many of your non-AB/DL friends know that you are an AB/DL or are involved with one?
28)In hindsight, how many of those non-AB/DL friends who know would you want to know?
29)How many of your coworkers know that you are an AB/DL or are involved with one? If you are a student, please include classmates, excluding friends.
30)In hindsight, how many of those coworkers who know would you want to know?
31)Which method (or methods) would you recommend others use when coming out? Please one, two, or a few.
32)What suggestions would you give to others who were thinking of coming out? For example, do you have tips about how or when to come out, or suggestions about determining whether or not someone would want to know? (Optional)
(6x65 character fill-in-the-blank area provided)
"...you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing, after all, as wanting." -Mr. Spock
This section will explore the interests and experiences of needing diapers, due to incontinence or some other reason, as opposed to just wearing or using them.
Note: There are AB/DLs who don't want to use diapers and don't have any reason to use them. The following question is intended to let them be counted without having to detail their lack of interest and need. (Clarification added 7/15/09)
33)Do you have either an interest in using diapers or a reason to use them, such as incontinence, an irritable bowel, diarrhea, etc.?
1. No - 2. Yes
If you answered 'no,' please skip to Section Five, starting with question number 43.
34)Have you worn and used diapers continuously for a period of months or more?
35)Are you incontinent?
36)Do you have an irritable bowel or problems with diarrhea more often than your friends?
37)Would you choose to become permanently incontinent? If you are incontinent, would you want control permanently restored?
38)Have you tried hypnosis to cause a lack of control?
39)Have you tried 'untraining' your bladder, either to become habitually incontinent or to wet the bed?
40)Have you used laxatives, suppositories, or other substances to cause messing 'accidents'?
41)Have you used a catheter to remove urinary control?
42)Is there a comment that you would like to add about wearing diapers 24/7, losing control, or needing diapers? (Optional)
(6x65 character fill-in-the-blank area provided)
"The only time a woman can really succeed in changing a man is when he is a baby" -Natalie Wood
The following questions will explore some aspects of actually being in a relationship as or with an AB/DL. Please answer at least the first two.
43)Are you currently:
44)How long have you and your current or most recent previous partner been close?
If you selected 'no close partnerships yet' please skip to the end .
45)Does your partner know that you are an AB/DL?
46)Your partner:
47)In AB/DL games, scenes, and activities with him or her, which role do you most often play?
48)Do you do what you want in terms of AB/DL practices, or do you moderate them based on the wants of others?
49)Have you been divorced?
50) What advice would you give to another AB/DL who was looking for someone special or just starting a relationship, or to a non-AB/DL who is in a new relationship with an AB/DL? (Optional)
(6x65 character fill-in-the-blank area provided)
"Try not to have a good time ... This is supposed to be educational." -Charles Schultz, Peanuts
51)Is there anything that was left out of this survey, or anything that needs to be corrected in it? (Optional)
(6x65 character fill-in-the-blank area provided)
(Checkbox) - It is OK to quote from my essay answers anonymously. (Names, email address, and clearly identifying information will not be made public either way.)
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Last Update: 15 June 2009
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