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Justifications for the Wikipedia Infantilism Article

By BitterGrey

Since it was rebuilt in January 2006, a number of editors have reviewed Wikipedia's article on Paraphilic Infantilism. Some were more zealous than others about deleting sections that they didn't think were adequately supported. Some sections were rewritten entirely, such as the section "Contrasted with Diaper Fetishes" Other sections were hammered out in line-by-line debates between the editors and the authors (or at the time, the author). To permit the use of tables, these line-by-line justifications were posted here.

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Confusing infantilism with pedophilia is a common misunderstanding. Arndt, William B., Jr. (1991). Gender Disorders and the Paraphilias, pg 394, International Universities Press, ISBN 0823621502.
Pedophilia is a sexual preference for children. "a sexual preference for children, boys or girls or both, usually of prepubertal or early pubertal age." ICD-10 sect. F65.4
In contrast, infantilists have a desire to be infants themselves, and those with a diaper fetish have a sexual interest in diapers.
  • Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition. Washington, DC, American Psychiatric Association, pg 572 (IV-TR)
  • Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition. Washington, DC, American Psychiatric Association, pg 569 (IV-TR)
Generally, they have ordinary heterosexual or homosexual sexual experiences otherwise. Tom Speaker, previously cited, pg 80
Inside the AD/DL communities, a sharp distinction is observed. DPF, one of the older AB/DL organizations, will expel child molesters. "The Diapers They Are a-Changin'" by Peter Gilstrap, The New Times Los Angeles, March 7-11, 1999, available from DPF (http://www.dpf.com/gilstrap.html)


Finding a Mommy or Daddy

Supporting references
A difficult part of life as an ABDL is finding a compatible spouse. Readability
For DLs, the search is difficult because there are few DLs in the general population.
  • Peter Gilstrap, previously cited
  • Tom Speaker, previously cited, pg 69
For ABs, the search is harder still because there is no clear counterpart. That is, while there is a set of urges driving some adults to be babied, there is not a matching set of urges driving others to baby adults. (Argument from silence: No book or journal on the paraphilias, known to the author, lists a counter-paraphilia for infantilism.  An example of counter-paraphilias would be  sadism and masochism.)
Female ABDLs are not necessarily willing to be mommies.
Some ABDLs are willing to be 'switch' mommies or daddies. Tom Speaker, previously cited, pg 83
ABDLs should discuss their interests with their spouse before the marriage. Ann Landers (1995) "Woman fears telling her fiance about her baby fetish", The Outlook, Oct 26th, 1995
For DLs, there are some prostitutes willing to partake in diaper play. For ABs, there are professional "adult babysitters." Tom Speaker, previously cited, pg 83


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As in everything else, the newness and novelty of specific ABDL practices eventually wears off. For readability.
Some ABDLs are stable and continue doing what they have been doing, at about the same frequency. Others will try new things to maintain the novelty. These new practices are usually more elaborate and extreme. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, IV-TR, American Psychiatric Association, pg 573
This pursuit continues until stability is reached, or some other factor limits the escalation. Result of above.
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