Odds and Ends

This is the fourth and final survey in this series. It will start out with some questions about where we came from, move on to questions about early memories, touch on other parts of our lives, and then broadly explore some things we enjoy now. While most of the content is weighted toward the AB/DL community, all are encouraged to participate.

All fill-in-the-blank questions are optional.

Answers to this survey are confidential, although answers to the fill-in-the-blank questions may be quoted anonymously. If you do not wish to be quoted, simply uncheck the 'it is OK to quote from my essay answers anonymously' box at the end of the survey. Names, email addresses, and other identifying information will not be distributed.

For the the purposes of this survey, 'AB/DL' will be used to loosely refer to those with an interest in diapers and/or babyhood. It will also be used to as an adjective to avoid repeating 'paraphilic infantilism, diaper fetishism, and related interests' often. If you don't consider yourself an AB/DL or caregiver, please substitute ageplay, BDSM, etc. in following questions. Additionally, 'babyhood' will be used generally to refer to infancy, toddlerhood, etc. Finally, 'partner' will be used to refer to one's girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, life partner, mistress, master, 'mommy,' 'daddy,' etc.

If you are a caregiver, big, partner of an AB/DL, etc., your input is important. Please answer based on your views and interests, as opposed to answering for your partner. (Clarification added 2 August 2011)

The Basics

1)Nickname(optional):

2)Email Address(optional):

3)In what year were you born? (YYYY)

4)Where were you born?
North America (excluding the Pacific Islands)
Central or South America
Europe (excluding Eastern Europe) or Great Britain
Eastern Europe or Russia
Asia (excluding Russia and India): China, Japan, Korea, Philippines, Etc.
Australia or New Zealand
Pacific Islands: Hawaii, Papua New Guinea, Etc.
India or Pakistan
Africa
Other (please specify)
Other:

5)What was the predominant religion in the community where you were raised?
Christian (Catholic)
Christian (other)
Islam
Hinduism
Buddhism
Traditional/folk religion (African, Chinese, etc.)
Sikhism
Judaism
Other (please specify)
Other:

6)What is your race? Mark one or more boxes
White (non-hispanic)
Hispanic
Black or African American
American Indian or Alaska Native
Asian Indian
Chinese
Filipino
Japanese
Korean
Vietnamese
Other Asian (enter below)
Native Hawaiian
Guamanian or Chamorro
Samoan
Other Pacific Islander (enter bellow)
Some other race (enter bellow)
Other:

7)What level of education have you achieved? If you were educated outside the U.S., please choose the most comparable degree.
No diploma
High school graduate or equivalent (GED)
Some college, no degree
Associate's degree (for example, AA, AS)
Bachelor's degree (for example, BA, BS)
Master's degree (for example, MA, MS, Eng, MEd, MSW, MBA)
Professional degree (for example, MD, DDS, DVM, LLB, JD)
Doctoral degree (for example, PhD, EdD)

8)Are you...
(Please only include gender identity as an adult, as opposed to when playing a baby, etc.)
Male
Female
Male Transvestite (mainly identifies as male, dresses as an adult woman)
Male to Female Transsexual
Female Transvestite (mainly identifies as female, dresses as an adult man)
Female to Male Transsexual
Biologically intersexed
Other:

9)What is your sexual orientation? (Please answer based on your sexual preferences, as opposed to actual practices.)
Heterosexual
Between Heterosexual and Bisexual, or Bi leaning toward heterosexual
Bisexual
Between Homosexual and Bisexual, or Bi learning toward homosexual
Homosexual
Solo (sexual): Even if I could have my choice of partners, I'd masturbate, etc., alone.
Asexual: I don't desire any form of sexual expression at any time.

Section One - Memories

This section will ask about some common aspects of our pasts. It starts out early in childhood, including some things that might not be remembered. Then it moves into early AB/DL experimentation, which might never be forgotten.

11)How old are you in your earliest memory?
Don't know
probably under 2 years old
around 2 yrs
around 3 yrs
around 4 yrs
around 5-6 yrs
around 7-9 yrs
probably 10 yrs or over

12)During your first few years of life, who did you spend you days with? Please select the best match.
Both parents stayed at home
One parent, a housewife/househusband
One parent, who returned to his/her career after you started school
One or more grandparents or other extended family members
A nanny or other non-relative
I was dropped off at a day-care
I don't know

13)At what age did you stop accidentally wetting the bed?
Don't know
probably under 2 years old
around 2 yrs
around 3 yrs
around 4 yrs
around 5-6 yrs
around 7-9 yrs
probably 10 yrs or over

14)Were you spanked or otherwise corporally punished as a child?
Never
Only a few times
Many times (but only when deserved)
Too many times (when I didn't deserve it)

15)When you first experimented with diapers and/or plastic pants, what were they?
improvised (terry or paper towels, plastic bags, shirts, etc.)
actual baby diapers/pants (that still fit)
actual baby diapers/pants (modified to fit)
actual adult diapers/pants

16)Were diapers or diaper-substitutes present in your early masturbation or other early sexual exploration?
All the time - Often - Sometimes - Rarely - Never
No masturbation or sexual exploration

17)Have you ever had trouble wetting a diaper when you want to?
No - I used to - I still do - I don't wet diapers

18)When growing up, did you think it likely that your family and friends would accept your AB/DL desires if they knew?
I was certain that they would accept them/me.
I thought they would accept them/me.
I didn't know or didn't think about it much.
I thought they would not accept them/me.
I was certain that they would not accept them/me.

19)Did your expectations about acceptance or rejection from others affect your lifestyle, self-image, personality, etc.?
It had a major impact, affecting most aspects of my life.
It had a substantial effect, affecting many aspects of my life.
It had a minor effect, affecting only some aspects of my life.
It had little or no effect.

20)Was this affect lasting? Does it still affect you?
It still affects me - Lasting - Somewhat lasting- Not lasting - Little or no effect

21)How old were you, in years, when you learned that there were other AB/DLs?

22)How did you learn there were other AB/DLs?
Conversation (face-to-face, phone, mail, etc.)
Conversation (chat room, email, etc.)
Found an Internet website (not interactive) or wiki.
Found an Internet forum (interactive).
TV/radio broadcast.
Adult magazine, movie, book, etc.
Book or magazine about psychology, psychiatry, etc.
Other newspaper, magazine, etc.
Other:

23)If there was a machine that would let you re-experience one day from childhood, would you choose a day from your own childhood or someone else's? You wouldn't be able to choose a particular day or particular other child, but would be able to choose the approximate age.
My own - Can't decide - Wouldn't want to - Someone else's.

Section Two - 'Life Outside'

25)Does wearing diapers or being an AB/DL limit your other activities? Please choose the best match.
No, there was never a conflict.
No, I've adapted my other activities around being an AB/DL.
No, with other obligations, I barely have the opportunity to do anything AB/DL.
Yes, I need to balance between the two.
Yes, I often have to skip other activities because of being an AB/DL.

26)Have you discussed your AB/DL interests with a counselor, therapist, or other mental health professional?
No - I haven't seen one.
No - I have seen one (or more), but didn't discuss it.
Yes - I was seeing one for another reason.
Yes - I chose to see one because of my interests.
Yes - family/spouse/etc wanted me to see one because of my interests.

27)If you have, was it helpful? Please skip this question if you answered "No" to question #26.
Very helpful - somewhat helpful - no effect - hurtful - very hurtful

28)Select the things that you do in public sometimes or often Please mark one or more boxes
Wear diapers
Wet diapers
Mess diapers
Carry a bag with diapers, changing supplies, etc.
Use a pacifier
Use a bottle or sippy cub
Wear shortalls, snapsuits, etc.
Wear childish dresses, gowns, etc.
Wear sleepers
Carry a stuffed animal
Other:

29)If you wear or use diapers, how do you feel about the risk that others might notice?
I don't enjoy any risk of exposure.
I sometimes enjoy a risk of exposure.
I'd prefer that no one knew, but don't really care.
I don't care who knows.
I'd prefer everyone knew, all else being equal.
I don't wear or use diapers. (skip question #30)

30)If you wear or use diapers, how hard do you think it would be for others to notice? Please select the best fit.
No one can tell.
They could tell if they really tried.
Not really hidden, but overlookable if they didn't want to know.
It is kind of obvious.
I don't wear or use diapers.

Section Three - Practices and Paraphernalia

There might never be an exhaustive list of the things and actions AB/DLs enjoy. This section will attempt to build a reasonably complete list. To simplify things, we'll focus on a few favorites, a few other interests, and a few disinterests. Please focus on actions, since they tend to be less ambiguous: Collecting hairbrushes, getting spanked with a hairbrush, getting one's hair brushed, etc. Please be as detailed as you think is necessary, and don't worry if there are too many or too few spaces. Please categorize, but don't worry about the scope of the categories (both "wearing pretty pink party dresses" and "dressing as a girl" are OK categories.)

Each question has five spaces to fill in. It is OK to leave some blank.

31)What AB/DL activities do you enjoy most? Don't worry about the order.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.

32)What other AB/DL activities do also enjoy? Please list a few random interests that you enjoy, other than those above, particularly any uncommon ones.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.

33)What AB/DL activities would you most like to try, but haven't yet?
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.

34)What are a few AB/DL activities that you wish to avoid or do not enjoy?
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.

35)My favorite AB/DL outfit would... Please choose the closest match. If you can't decide on a favorite, use the first outfit that comes to mind. It doesn't have to be one that you own.
If worn by you:
...be mainly for aesthetics (look, smell, texture, etc.)
...express something inside me, a role I see for myself
...express a role chosen for me by a caregiver/partner
...be functional/practical
If worn by your partner:
...be mainly for appearance (or texture, smell, etc.)
...help my partner express who he or she is inside
...help me envision/define my partner's role
...be functional/practical
Otherwise...
Some other combination, or no outfit comes to mind

36)If cultural norms shifted and your favorite AB/DL outfit became accepted and commonplace, much like sweats are today, how would you feel about it?
Good - now I can wear it everywhere.
Good - some other reason
Neutral
Bad - now it isn't special/babyish/scandalous/etc. anymore
Bad - some other reason
My favorite outfit already is.

37)How would you describe your stuffed animals, teddy bears, and dolls? Please choose the closest match
Ordinary objects, although some might have sentimental value
A particular comfort when held, relaxing to talk to, etc.
Actively special somehow
They help me express who I am, my inner child, etc.
Critical for my identity/sense of self
Alive, with souls
I don't have any stuffed animals, etc.

38)About your memories of when you are regressed...
My memory is about the same either regressed or not.
Sometimes I can't remember what happened when I was regressed.
I usually can't remember what happened when I was regressed.
I roleplay, usually but do not regress.
I usually do not roleplay.

40)Is there anything that was left out of this survey, or anything that needs to be corrected in it? (Optional)

- It is OK to quote from my essay answers anonymously. (Names, email address, and clearly identifying information will not be made public either way.)

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