will also have a dangling trough in between the legs or slightly behind. The dangling trough is harder to hide, unless you are in a skirt or dress.At an infantilist party a few years back, two of LA's more respected daddies threatened to diaper me. I was already wearing one, and the thought that even they couldn't tell was amusing. Since moving away from my folks, I've gained a few pounds in the wrong places. I might not be able to achieve that level of stealth anymore. If you still live with your parents and don't want to tell them, then you'll need to practice stealth too.
However, mere discretion in public is OK for most of us. People might see, hear, and smell something, but probably won't notice unless they know what to look for. Most people don't care, or don't want to know. They are free to interpret reality to match their expectations, and everybody is happy.
In some public situations, we can even get away with bare modesty. Here, it may be is impossible to deny that we are wearing diapers, but we are still "decent" in the eyes of the law. At times, this can be used to make a political or social point, but most often it is just rude. Please check with those involved beforehand if you plan to be indiscrete in public. This is especially true if you are meeting someone at or near their home. Neighbors may be watching.
Discretion is suitable for most cases, and isn't hard to achieve. It just takes a little consideration of the various signs. These signs can be seen, herd, and smelled.
As you know, diapers have characteristic bulges. All diapers have two vertical ridges in back, where the diaper transitions from folded in the crotch to flat around the cheek. Wearing pants with enough space to fit over the diaper comfortably is a must. Large, but from-fitting clothes, like jeans, may help to impose a more normal shape on the diaper. This imposition can also come from an undergarment. Loose clothes, like sweats, may obscure the shape, and hide the diaper in that way. Swim trunks have a double-benefit; they include both a mesh liner that will impose, and a baggy shell to obscure. (Please do not go swimming in an ordinary disposable!) The diaper will also cause a flattish bulge in front, especially for males. (Females are expected to be flattish in front.) A common way to cover this bulge is to untuck your shirt, or to wear an ample sweater. Soiled diapers and wet wingfolds will also have a dangling trough in between the legs or slightly behind. The dangling trough is harder to hide, unless you are in a skirt or dress.
Since diapers are usually worn higher than pants, there is also a risk of a visible pantywaist. This may be seen if the shirt rides up in back. Unless it is blatant, or the result of a hand movement, or someone is watching your butt, it will probably go unnoticed. Perhaps this is the best way to let someone know you are wearing a diaper, without letting them know that you meant to let them know. Of the sightings listed in Deeker's collection of Diaper Sightings Reports, 20% of sightings were of this type. (60% were fully exposed, without pants or shorts. Another 10% were noticed by the bulge, and 6% of the diapers wer seen through a leg opening.)
Another intermittent sign is leakage. Ordinary people may overlook it because they don't realize that diaper leaks start at a particular edge; the edge where the diaper or plastic pants wrap around the cheek, just past the transition out of the crotch. Leakage in other areas is rare when standing or sitting. In contrast, something you sat in would start anywhere and have a puddle shape. Leaks can be concealed with dark-colored pants. They can be prevented by wearing plastic pants and changing before leakage occurs. Leaks should be avoided, because the urine smell is hard to get out of seats.
A common concern these days is the rustling of disposable diapers. Plastic pants over cloth diapers rustle sometimes too. Those trim, quiet 'refastenable briefs' with the cloth-like spunbond-meltblown-spunbond (SMS) top-sheets are an option, sure. However, the crinkling sound of the shiny, smooth plastic top-sheet, and the noisy rustling of the old vinyl pants is part of the experience of being a baby. Of course, when we are out in public, we might not want it to be part of everyone else's experience. The sound level varies with the type of diaper, with the fit, and over time. The sound can be reduced by wearing jeans, plastic pants, and/or spandex briefs over the diaper. The plastic pants should be thick enough to stiffen the plastic sheet, but not noisy themselves. Spandex briefs have the drawback that they hold the diaper close against the skin. The rustling can also be concealed by other noises. In a noisy environment, the sound of even a bare, ordinary diaper probably go unnoticed. In a library, it may carry for some distance. Nylon shorts, "parachute" pants, and corduroy may help to camoflauge the sound.
Of the contributors to Deeker's collection of Diaper Sightings Reports, only about 5% listed sounds as the primary clue in detecting the diaper.
A much less common sign is the dribbling or dropping sound that can occur when diapers are used. This can range from the inaudibly gentle trickle to the trumpeted "splort" of gassy diarrhea. Having not herd either from anyone else, I can only write that the element of surprise may help: Those around you probably won't know what they herd, and may not want to find out.
The tapes on disposables may pop open at other times, but that has a different sound that is much less audible.
More frequently, it is the smells that bother people, and that is something we need to keep an eye ...or a nose .. on. The smell can be reduced by using soap and water when changing. This cuts down on the old urine odor. The smell of urine gets stronger as bacteria multiply and produce ammonia. Foods like asparagus and other foods can give it a smell. [nu-hope.com]. Cloth diapers also have a distinctive, musty scent when wet. Disposables also have scents of their own that are often unnoticed. One time, I was in the car with someone, and could tell that he was wearing a wet Attends. Of course, most people wouldn't recognize the scent. This is fortunate, because I once made the mistake of storing clothing with diapers, and ended up attending class in sweats with that unique Attends scent, amplified by the breathability of the sweats.
In contrast, the messy diaper smell is much less subtle. This odor can be reduced by taking Nullo or Chlorophyll, which is available at herbal medicine shops. The resulting scent will be less detectable and less obviously caused by a full diaper. These take a few days to take effect. Another effect is that the feces will be green.
In Deeker's collection of Diaper Sightings Reports, 11% smelled pee, and 15% smelled feces.
Changing in public restrooms is a different situation, because we can't control how much privacy is offered. One-person restrooms with locking doors are no problem. However, some public restrooms have multiple stalls but no doors! One time someone walked in and checked a stall - only to see a pair of apple green plastic pants pulled down to the knee, and a disposable diaper being changed in a standing position. He moved on to another stall without comment.
Even when the stalls have doors, there is still no hiding the distinctive sound of four to six tapes peeling. Many ordinary parents know what this sound means, but they may not have the presence of mind to count. They might also notice that the changing is happening in a stall, and not on the changing table closer to the doorway. The number of tapes and the location of the sound are sure signs that an adult is being changed. If they care, they'll know, so there is nothing to worry about.
The properly disposed-of diaper is also a give-away: You may be seen when carrying it out to the trash can. In one recent experience, the nearest trash can was three meters outside the restroom, in the public park! If you carry plastic bags, packing the diaper out with you is an option, but it would be a matter of stealth, not discretion. In the case of hotel rooms, used diapers should be left in closed, plastic bags. You may also want to consider leaving a tip for housekeeping.
On the other end of the spectrum, there may not be any public restrooms around. Hopefully, this means that there aren't any people around either.
Ok, so all of these thankless measures have been taken to keep ordinary prudes from knowing we are in diapers. How do we share that secret with ourselves?
A typical sign that someone wears and uses diapers is the diaper bag. They can be any closed bag, but usually stand out in a few ways. The bag will be larger than a disposable, usually holding two or three. The bag may look light, but not empty: Diapers are a lot less dense than books. The person with the bag may also be in a situation where most people wouldn't carry bags. For example, people visiting a restaurant as a group will leave book bags at the table when going to the restroom, but the will bring their diaper bags into the restroom with them.
Let's say that you pick up on someone else's signs, what do you do? Do you politely let them know that his diaper is showing, and then let him know that you wear them too? Or do you subtly give them a sign in return?
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