Understanding Infantilism (.org)

Celebrating 15 years of spreading understanding and acceptance. This website has been devoted to sharing information about infantilism, diaper fetishes, and AB/DLs since it opened in 1995. Its goal has been to build better lives though understanding. Originally, it was titled "BitterGrey's Den." The website has seen many changes through the years, as is clear from these old cover pages: 1997 - 2000 - 2002 - 2003 - 2005

What is infantilism?

While infantilism has appeared on a few TV shows such as CSI, it isn't widely understood. Paraphilic infantilism and diaper fetishes are deep and lasting urges with a specific focus: diapers and/or babyhood. The urges differ from person to person. Infantilism isn't a fetish per se, but may coexist with a diaper fetish. Neither involve actual children. Infantilists and those with diaper fetishes are often called Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers (AB/DLs or ABDLs).

Why would someone want to wear diapers?

There are many speculations about what causes infantilism and diaper fetishes. In truth, the causes are probably as diverse as the AB/DLs themselves.

Is being an AB/DL OK?

Infantilism and diaper fetishes aren't directly harmful, but have their risks. Some of these need to be addressed as a community, while others must be addressed individually.

A triangle relating paraphilic infantilism, emphasizing change in role or loss of control, to diaper fetishism, emphasizing diapers as objects.  In some ways, the corners are similar to transvestism, masochism, and -not surprisingly - fetishism.

Learning More

More detail can be found from what AB/DLs do. There is also an articles index and an AB/DL glossary.

Surveys add to our knowledge of the AB/DL community. Currently, responses are being gathered for the survey on practices, the third in the series. Results and analyses of the first two AB/DL surveys are available, a well as two papers by Tom Speaker.

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Recent Changes

[Second Opinion] [More Details]

AB/DL Websites

[INFO}LilJennie's infantilism site
[CHAT} ADISC.org
[French} infantilisme.info

Babyfur Websites

[INFO} Babyfur.com
[ART] Proxima's Nursery
[CHAT} Fox Tales Times
[INFO} Wikifur's Babyfurs

Do you have Questions, Tips, Suggestions, or other comments?

DISCLAIMER

This is an academic site. However, because of the topics it deals with, it may be sexually or religiously offensive to some readers. Those who are under 18 are welcome, but are encouraged to keep their options open.